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面對另一半的嘮叨、不斷追問，因無從回答而陷入一場責罵或爭吵；與其消極地以「健忘」或「敷衍」等方式抵抗喋喋不休及疲勞轟炸，不如學習如何正向溝通。

進入本文前，請先想想以下單字：
(A) 努力克服
(B) 導致，引發
(C) 充分地，顯著地

Journal of Family Psychology indicates in 2011 that couples who became unhappy five years into their marriage had a roughly 20% increase in negative communication patterns consistent with nagging-is an issue every couple will ^(A) grapple with at some point.

Journal of Family Psychology曾在2011發表結婚五年後變得不幸福的夫妻，約有20%是因嘮叨這樣的負面溝通所引起，所以嘮叨為每對夫妻遲早都要努力應對的問題。

While the word “nagging” can ^(B) provoke chuckles and eye-rolling, the dynamic can potentially be as dangerous to a marriage as adultery or bad finances. Experts say it is exactly the type of toxic communication that can eventually sink a relationship.

儘管「嘮叨」二個字讓人發笑或不屑，但對婚姻而言，它潛在的摧毀能力就跟出軌或經濟拮据一樣危險。專家說，就是這種有殺傷力的溝通方式終將毀掉夫妻關係�! ��

There is evidence that women's and men's brains process language differently. Listening to, understanding and producing speech may be easier for women because they have more nerve cells in the left half of the brain, which is used to process language.

女性和男性的大腦對語言的處理方式是不同的。女性更容易傾聽和理解談話，也更善於陳述事情，因為女性的大腦左半球擁有更多處理語言的神經細胞。

Logically, all would be perfect if the talkers married the non-talkers. But that's not always the case, since many non-talkers are also non-listeners - they simply tune out the chatter. The naggee tires of the badgering and starts to withhold, which makes the nagger nag more.

依照這邏輯，如果愛說話的人和不愛說話的人結婚，一切就會很圓滿。但情況並不總是如此，因為許多不愛說話的人同時也是不愛聽人說話的人，他們會對嘮叨充耳不聞。這是一個惡性循環：被嘮叨的人厭煩了這種糾纏，開始沉默，這讓嘮叨的人更加嘮叨。

The good news: Couples can learn to stop nagging. If you are the nagger, realize you are asking for something, use an 'I' not a 'you' statement. If you are the naggee, give a clear response to your partner's request. Tell her honestly if you can do what she asks and when. Then follow through. Do what you say you will do.

好消息是，夫妻可以學會停止嘮叨。如果你是嘮叨的那一方，請意識到你是在請別人做事，說話要考量立場。如果你是被嘮叨的人，請明白地答覆伴侶的要求，誠實地告訴她你能否軏成她要求的事，什麼時候去做，然後照辦。

While all couples deal with nagging at some point, those who learn to reduce this type of negative communication will ^(C) substantially increase their odds of staying together and keeping love alive.

儘管所有夫妻都有面臨嘮叨的時候，但學會減少這種負面交流的夫妻將大大地增加愛情保鮮及相伴一生的機率。

(請點右上角Aa圖示看口語字彙。)